You make such an important point here about checking ourselves when we make requests, to ensure we are not - in fact - harboring expectations, and to acknowledge that a request means the answer may also be "No". While it may be the case that those you do not hear back from are simply stealth demanders, I suspect what also may be happening is that this person has revealed a vulnerability to you, and that hearing No without recognition of that vulnerability is door-closing. Requests are bids for connection, and need to be built both ways. If you would like to hear back from them, or stay in connection, could you perhaps let them know that or share your request as well? Money creates static in human connection, so it's good to acknowledge that, even when we cannot change our decision because we do need the financial contribution. Just a thought.
You make such an important point here about checking ourselves when we make requests, to ensure we are not - in fact - harboring expectations, and to acknowledge that a request means the answer may also be "No". While it may be the case that those you do not hear back from are simply stealth demanders, I suspect what also may be happening is that this person has revealed a vulnerability to you, and that hearing No without recognition of that vulnerability is door-closing. Requests are bids for connection, and need to be built both ways. If you would like to hear back from them, or stay in connection, could you perhaps let them know that or share your request as well? Money creates static in human connection, so it's good to acknowledge that, even when we cannot change our decision because we do need the financial contribution. Just a thought.